Hi. My name is Christopher. Most people call me Chris and people who know me by my Tibetan name call me Lhakpa. The name was bestowed upon me while hiking in the Adirondacks some time ago by a friend who had the luxury of hiking in Tibet and Nepal.
I found the meaning of the name several months later and remain intrigued as the definition, the meaning fit me like a well-worn leather glove.
- You gravitate to positions where there is stability, security, and opportunities to work with others to make steady progress.
- You could be very skillful in dealing with technical and mechanical matters.
- You appreciate details, precision, and system and order.
- These qualities, however, can make you too fussy, from time to time, over inconsequential matters.
- You do not take to changes easily and can be quietly stubborn.
- You do rely on the support and encouragement of others as there is an underlying lack of confidence with this name.
- For the same reason, many times you procrastinate over making decisions.
I chose the original name of this blog, Dharmata for it’s meaning. Dharmata means “suchness” and refers to the nature of reality, the enlightened state. It is fantastically brilliant, hence “luminous.”
I’m married to Nancy my beautiful wife for the past 33-years. We have two beautiful children; Marissa who is 30 and Stephen, also known as Kujo who is 27.
We live in North Tonawanda, NY. “NT” as it’s known to its residents is a city of about 34K people. It’s a bedroom community tucked in between Niagara Falls and Buffalo. Nancy and I have lived in “NT” our entire lives. Trust me, that’s a blog post in and of itself. We also live here with our favorite dog “Jack.” Jack is a Cock-a-Poo, or at least that’s what we were told when we picked him out from a questionable country breeder. Oh well, we still love him. Unfortunately Jack left us two years ago. My wife and I made the decision to euthanize Jack after I watched him walk off the edge of our porch. His cataracts had become so bad it was causing many problems with his vision. I have never made a more difficult decision in my entire life. The sadness which I felt was overwhelming. Several months after Jack left us, we went back to the same “breeder” and rescued another dog from the puppy mill where we had gotten Jack 17-years earlier. We love Bandit despite his behavior which to say the least has been “trying.” He has done so much damage to our furnishings that two years after he joined us he is only allowed to visit the downstairs. Anything which he can fit into his mouth he will attempt to eat such as my grandson’s $350 sock. You get the picture.
I have been a professional social worker in NYS since 1985. Since that time I have had an opportunity to make a proactive impact on the lives of thousands of individuals, couples, and families. Social Work is my profession and my passion. I have opened the doors in 1998 to my private therapy practice Namaste Counseling & Wellness. and am working on a book about how we allow fear to lead us down a path of emotional difficulty. The book has been in my head for a number of years and over the last two years of procrastinating have I begun to transition those thoughts and musings to electronic form.
Thank you for reading!
Chris, Christopher, Lhakpa